When we were stolen from Africa, our wooden and ivory combs were left behind. Our natural hair cleansers and emollients of the land no longer surrounded us and scalp infections occurred in abundance. Styling muds were no longer available to us and we didn’t get to create the intricate braided styles that only we are known for creating, due to a loss of skill due to enslavement and discrimination for failure to assimilate if we wore braided styles. We had to figure out how to care for our hair in a land of people who were made to seem so outwardly dissimilar to us and hateful of us.
We have come a long way with learning about our hair with blogs like BGLH and having products created by women with hair like us. Continue to appreciate, take and share the knowledge you receive from people whom you are inspired by and only came to know because of hair. Forgive your mom. Forgive your grandma. Forgive anyone who has planted a negative seed in your mind for the mistakes they’ve made and don’t hold them accountable for the state of your hair now, if you are unhappy with it. Instead, absorb the knowledge that’s available to you like a thirsty plant absorbs water and allow your hair to grow."
If a woman is sexually overt is she still feminist? It’s a question that…obviously for me, the answer is yes. But also in a larger sense, I’m not interested in policing feminism either. I have such a problem with the idea of people saying things like, ‘Oh she’s not feminist because of blah blah blah.’
Whoever says they’re feminist is bloody feminist. And I just feel like we live in a world where more people need to be saying it and we shouldn’t be looking to pull people out of the feminist party. And I think the reason I find myself reacting so strongly to questions of female sexuality is…there’s something very disturbing to me about the idea that a woman’s sexuality somehow is not hers. So when certain feminists who will say, it’s about the male gaze, it’s for the man, there a kind of a self-censoring about that that’s similar to what they’re fighting.
So as long as women have the choice…why shouldn’t women own their sexuality? Why shouldn’t a woman who does whatever with her sexuality identify as feminist?"